The secret is out. I homeschool. I know the idea of homeschooling isn’t as taboo as it used to be, but there is a war brewing out there. A war that has the potential to cripple the masses. It’s not about stricter laws or big brother looking in our houses. I am talking about a war, not a battle. The battles are against legislature, but the war has been set against each other. Mom vs. mom. The enemy has declared war on moms.

Now, let’s be honest for a minute. When I said I homeschool, some of you assumed many things about me, and my kids, for better or for worse without even knowing me. If you didn’t, let me make my point clearer. Let’s change the content from homeschooling to: I have my kids in private school, I have my kids in public school, I vaccinate, I don’t vaccinate, I eat all organic, I eat at McDonalds, I don’t allow my children to watch T.V., I let my kids watch T.V., I spank my kids, I would never spank my kids, etc. I hope I am making my point clearly. It wouldn’t matter what the content was. As soon as I say I do, or do not do/believe in something, assumption is upon me. The war has been set.

I am not going to pretend I am not guilty of joining this war. I used to be my own little assumption island. If someone said something that I didn’t do or didn’t believe in, a line was drawn between us. I would immediately think, “Oh, she must be this kind or that kind of mom. She must be fearful, or lazy, or ignorant, or… (whatever demeaning character trait I could come up with).” I made assumptions, which is just a nicer way of saying I judged people, without knowing why they did things a different way than me. I never asked or cared enough. I never thought deeply about how God has different plans for each family, I just drew a line. I found that the more I assumed, the more I felt judged by others. And this left me alone on my own little island. Not a paradise island, but a desert island. I became an island of no harvest or fruit. I was stranded there for years drinking tainted water.

And isn’t that where the enemy wants us? All alone, judging and making assumptions about people who potentially could be our closest friends. All alone, feeling judged by others. That’s exactly where He wants us and he will do anything to keep us there. The heart of God is relationship, and the enemy wants to destroy this. Jesus came to not only pay all debt on sin, but to establish a new commandment of relationship. “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another” (John 13:34). Jesus doesn’t tell us to love someone if they agree with us, or live life exactly like us. He doesn’t tell us to draw a line between the way we school, or choose to feed or discipline our children. No. He commands us to be mature. He commands us to strive for friendship and understanding. The only line to be drawn is between righteousness and sin. The war should be God’s people verses Satan’s lies. It shouldn’t be God’s people against each other.

Friends, we need to stand together, hand in hand against the enemy. As moms who love the Lord, we have the same heart. We want what is best for our children and our families. If we allow ourselves to become islands, we can never overcome. When we separate ourselves because of the differences God has established in us, we are separating ourselves from a part of Him. He made us each unique to challenge and grow each other in love. If His people cannot have relationship, if His people cannot be humble, if His people cannot see past themselves, how can He help the next generation? We must love one another and strive for community. Not a community that looks just like us and makes us comfortable. His community. A community of one heart, taking territory across the land. Jesus commands this of us. He says to love one another, just as He has loved us. “By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another” (John 13:35). Love (relationship) is what defines us. Let us stand united and lay down our assumptions against one another so that all people will know we are His disciples. The next generation is watching us and deciding if we are His disciples or if we are merely islands who get to go to Heaven. The next generation will reap what we sow.